Being a Mummy. The person Lil G calls mumma. Being the one he turns to. Being the one our furry baby wakes up first each morning. With his wet nose pressed against mine. Being mummy is the best job in the world. It’s tiring. Exhausting. Messy at times. It’s tough but oh my I wouldn’t change it.
From that very first touch. How that overwhelming sense of love engulfs you. The urge to become protector, fighter of all things evil. To have just one special power. To be a super mum.
Last week tested me. I failed my boy. I wasn’t there when he needed me (you can read about that here). Thoroughly drained from a week at the office and a HUGE 36 hours away from my boys I was far from feeling like a super mum. That somehow I had let my boy down. The journey home on Friday never took so long. I was longing for my little family.
At the back of my mind I was concerned about the work I needed to complete on my blog and the millions of ideas whirring around in my head of posts I wanted to write-up. On the other hand, I just needed to chill. To be mummy and wife. To regain my status as super mummy. To spend time away from distraction. To focus on our little family. To regain the balance.
I remembered this quote I’d seen on Pinterest…
It got me thinking. By being so busy with work, and away for a night, what had I missed?
The ordinary moments. The little things. Life’s simple pleasures.
Putting him to bed, waking up with him, hearing his little yawns as he comes out of his deep sleep. Tip toeing into his bedroom to say goodnight just one more time (I’m a creepy mum!). Reading him a story, eating breakfast together, enjoying a morning snuggle and hearing about his day. Being present. These are the ordinary moments of being a mummy, a parent. As a full-time working mummy I crave these moments and miss them terribly when things get in the way.
Parenting guilt hit me. If it were a disease, it would be a killer. One without cure. Will it ever leave me?
Here are my five ways of not missing out…
- Say yes. To a trip out. A game. Something you would usually say no to. What is it they would ask to do and you would say no to?
- Turn off your alerts. For a few hours. For a whole day. Enjoy life without social media. Step away from your blog. From Facebook. From Twitter. Without distraction. Let them know they come first.
- Dance. Pop on some music. Sing out loud. Dance free. Together. Have fun. Twirl. I used to love to twirl as a little girl.
- Put away your camera (the most difficult of all for me). Be present. Live in the moment. No pictures. Just memories. Feel your time together. Live and breathe it.
- Sit back and watch. Let them be kids. Let them play. Grow. Learn. Join in when asked. Help them with that difficult puzzle but otherwise take a step back. I often see Lil G looking for me but not always wanting me to join in. He has a beautiful world of imaginative play. No need for distraction from me.
My gorgeous boy is the reason I wake up each morning. The reason I breathe. The reason I am tired. The reason I feel and look 10 years older. The reason for working so hard. The reason for writing this post.
It is all about Lil G. Our Little Family. I love my boy. So so much. On the days where I’m not always present I will remember to be present, to be a good mummy on those days which can be free from distraction. I owe him that much.
Now, to grow a money tree, which will allow me to enjoy breakfast, lunch and dinner with my boy everyday!
How do you ensure you spend quality time together?